Sunday, December 18, 2011

Change

Change...sometimes easy and a good thing, other times difficult to adapt to.
When my parents retired, they sold their home and bought a winterized cottage near a lake.  Their plan was to spend 6 months of winter in Florida and the other 6 months enjoying this small cottage.  During the summer we visited often with our girls to play games in the large backyard and at night, sit around a fire toasting marshmallows.  After the girls married and had children of their own, they too came to know the fun of spending time with my parents.
Here is the little cottage when it was purchased, perfect for the intended use.
 Dad painted the awnings and trim turquoise one year which is how we fondly remember it.
A photo we sent to them in Florida one year so they'd know how quaint the place looked covered in snow.
After Dad passed away a couple of years ago, we sold the cottage as Mom was in a nursing home with no memories left of it since Alzheimer's had taken them all from her.
The gentleman who bought the house barely looked inside, instead intent on the large tree covered lot.  He had no idea how much our family loved the times we spent here with my parents and, he had other plans for the cottage.  It wasn't long until bulldozers levelled the whole place, burying all those good times and memories of ours amid the rubble.
The new home that was built stretches from one side of the property to the other and towers above the small cottages around it.  It's fresh and modern looking. 

When we downsized our house, we moved to the same village a few streets over from my parents so we could help when they became elderly, it was a good thing we did.  
Will the new owners feed the bluejays and squirrels every day as Dad had done?  Most of the trees were cut down so maybe they will not even come around. 
Change...something we have to accept as we get older.
I'm linking with Mary at Little Red House for Mosaic Monday.

23 comments:

  1. Judith, memories can never be taken away, just the physically part of living. How blessed you ALL are to have such warm snuggly loving memories to treasure.

    Merry Christmas
    TTFN ~
    Hugs,
    Marydon

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  2. Change like this one you've described can be so very hard to handle. When we sold my MIL's modest bungalow in Vancouver the same thing happened - bulldozed and replaced by a monster of over 6,000 sq ft. We can't even drive down the street anymore as it is difficult to see that all the blossoming trees are gone. It's a good thing that memory holds the key to the places that we've loved - the memories of you and your children keep that wonderful little cottage and all the good times alive.

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  3. I certainly prefer the small, cozy cottage instead of that big new building. Memories will live on in your heart.

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  4. It is good that you have the memories!

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  5. Change is the the only constant.......:) nice post.

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  6. Change and progress(?). Sometimes it's so difficult but we can keep our memories (until they are taken from us too). That house is new but I bet it looks very out of place with the other smaller homes nearby.

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  7. You have wonderful memories of the cottage with yoru parents and family. Sometimes change can be really sad. I also have the thought of who will feed my birds if we ever leave our house. I hope you have a lovely week ahead.

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  8. Oh what a shame. What is the song Joni Mitchell sang about: Don't it always seem to go, That you don't know what you got till its gone. They paved paradise and put up a parking lot. Glad you got your memories Judith. V

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  9. I enjoyed reading about your parents' cottage and your memories Judith. After my folks passed away, we sold their house, and the new owners have made changes, but at least they haven't bulldozed it. (They did cut down almost all the trees, tho.) You had a big adjustment to make! It was difficult enough for me just to walk out of my parents' house for the last time. Thanks for sharing about this sweet cottage and your family. Bess-- PS: I think your silver tree is very pretty!

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  10. It's difficult, isn't it? I have often thought that when the time comes to sell our home, th enew owners likely won't want the garden as it is; it's too large for a casual gardener to manage. I would hate to see it gone, yet when one sells the property, one lets go. You do still have your memories and no one can take those from you.
    Hugs, Beth

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  11. Oh I can feel your pain in this post...At least you have the memories and no one can take those away..cherish them. Christmas is always a time to refelct on the times we have spent with family and to realize that all of these things in the world are really just things...that the people you spent the time with are the most important.

    Thank you for stopping by my blog and visiting and for the very sweet comment. Merry Christmas to you and your family.

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  12. It's wonderful to have your good memories and a photos! Things change but we can always share our stories and that keeps them alive! Happy holidays! ♥

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  13. Hi Judith! This is a touching post. I am thinking of my grandmother's house and how we just spent the last two years clearing it completely so we could sell it - still no buyers. Just a big empty shell where furniture and family treasures had been stored since 1937! Like you - so many family memories in a "place" - tough when we see the change and know those old days are gone, but for our memories of same.
    Joy!
    Kathy

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  14. Keep all of the good memories with you...transitions like this are never easy.

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  15. Oh my heart! I couldn't imagine! Living in a community where there's a lot of history behind the houses, you know there were families and memories there too. I suppose memories are gifts that we can share with each other to never be taken away!
    Hope you have a blessed week,
    Kathy

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  16. What are we without these memories! Hold them in your heart!
    Have a wonderful week and a wonderful Christmas!
    Markus

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  17. Hello,Judith!
    What a touching story you have,Judith. The cottage in the snow is very sweet.I believe that your father and mother were so happy after their retiring and shared precious time!
    I was off-line for a while as I was busy. I am so glad to read your post today!
    Have a Wonderful Christmas!
    Tomoko.

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  18. Oh, Judith. What a story. You have your precious memories. I live in a neighborhood where the wonderful cottages are knocked down to build a much larger home. I just hate to see it happen. It changes the whole feel of the neighborhood, but we do have our memories. Merry Christmas to You!

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  19. Judith, this is so touching. Living in a home and having wonderful memories is such a blessing. I am so glad you and your dear parents knew that feeling....so many do not.

    Always cling to your precious memories and your pictures. They are such treasures.

    Barb

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  20. Wonderful memories that can never leave! How precious. I was just thinking this the other day as my neighbor is 93 and his wife is 88 and he is failing. What will happen to their home when they are gone and who will move in. They have been fabulous neighbors for 20 years.

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  21. Change is often difficult, especially when something we treasure is tossed aside so lightly by others. But you have wonderful memories, some photos and you will always carry the joy of that home with you.

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  22. A very Merry Christmas to you and your family. My husby and I recently visited each of the homes our family lived in as we were growing up and many are no longer around...cherish the memories and your images so much more~

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  23. Hi Judith, It does not matter that another house replaces your parents, you will always have fond memories to visit everyday in your heart. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas with your family. Take care, Jen.

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